Parenting kids in foster care can be a unique and rewarding experience, but it also comes with its own set of challenges. These children often have experienced trauma and disruptions in their lives, which can impact their behavior and emotional well-being. However, with the right techniques and approaches, parents can provide a supportive and nurturing environment that can help these children thrive.

 

One approach that has shown promise for parenting kids in foster care is Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI). TBRI is an evidence-based approach developed by Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross at the TCU Institute of Child Development. It is a holistic approach that focuses on building connections and relationships between parents and children, addressing the underlying causes of behavior, and providing a safe and nurturing environment.

 

TBRI is comprised of three core principles: empowering, connecting, and correcting. Empowering involves giving children a sense of control and choice, while connecting focuses on building strong relationships through eye contact, physical touch, and attunement. Correcting involves setting clear boundaries and expectations while still providing love and support.

 

Some techniques that can be used to implement TBRI in parenting kids in foster care include:

 

"Time-In": Rather than traditional time-out, "time-in" involves sitting with the child and providing a safe and supportive environment for them to express their emotions and needs.

 

Sensory Integration: Many children in foster care have experienced sensory disruptions or traumas. Sensory integration techniques such as massage, deep pressure touch, and calming sensory activities can help children feel more regulated and safe.

 

Redirection: Rather than using punishment, redirection techniques focus on providing alternative options and choices for the child to redirect their behavior.

 

Life Story Work: Helping children in foster care create a life story book or narrative can provide a sense of identity and understanding of their past experiences.

 

Overall, parenting kids in foster care requires a compassionate and supportive approach that recognizes the unique needs and experiences of each child. By using techniques such as TBRI and creating a nurturing and supportive environment, parents can help these children heal and thrive. If you are considering fostering or adopting a child, consider seeking out training and resources on TBRI and other evidence-based approaches to support your journey as a parent.